The Mistress

It’s been spoken into existence that you are what you eat, what about you are what you do? Better known as the classic “homewrecker” I’d rather be referred to as “the other woman.” The woman that has no problem picking up where you left off, finishing what you started and doing what you didn’t have the time to” my main objective is to satisfy the unfulfilled. The act of “toe stepping” can be literally or figuratively defined as to step down onto someone's toes, causing pain and or to offend or insult someone, as if causing physical pain. Frowned upon simply for its compromise of loyalty and moral respect, it’s the accumulation of desire and the disregard of any consequences.
I’ll begin with explaining the different types and methods of “toe stepping” There are many different women who are involved in this epidemic but neither less in this game all great minds don’t think alike. I say the beginner’s trade and the most common are those I’d like to call “The colleges ”, be it in the workplace, school, church or community these are the females who come in the most deceitful disguise. This girl could be a friend of both parties and is undetected by the role she plays; usually gains her status by being recognized as the “ best friend ” or even the “sister of no relation ” she uses the trust to attack from the inside. The reason this is the most common trade is simply the fact that the opposing party is blinded. And they usually would never believe that such an act could be taking place and therefore never suspect a thing. Believe it or not in most situations it’s not always intentional. They say you can’t control your heart and who you eventually fall for. Two long time friends may have never seen it coming and perhaps in most cases couldn’t stop what had become despite whomever else was already involved.

“The prowler ” She is the most obvious because she is the conniving ex-girlfriends. Her tactic is the undeniable insecurities that she is capable of inflicting on her newest victim. The prowler is so admirable because she has a hold of his past and for that reason is the most manipulative. The man is sometimes unaware of how susceptible he is of falling right back into her trap. Her strategy is to pry on what they once had and no one else is able to stop her lurking but he, himself. Whoever comes into his life after her is simply a threat and she begins to engage in “toe stepping” by doing whatever it takes to get back what she lost.
Women spend lifetimes at the hands of fate in the search for their soul mate. In most situations we come very close and who’s to say it will be the closest we may ever get. I’m sure you’ve heard you don’t know what you had until it’s gone and the same applies to the human heart; with selfish minds we tend to try and hold on to what we might not really want anymore but instead keep it in close range just because we can. “ The prowler ” is aware of the attributes of the man and she clings to him, her “toe stepping” is merely a coping mechanism. The trick of this very profound “toe stepper” is that only she can come to the realization that they are no longer, but until she reaches that point she conflicts as much pain as she possibility can for the time being.

Lastly, there is the mistress or “ the other woman ” what separates her form the rest of the former “ toe steppers ” is the fact that what she and the male has is something real a relation that neither of them can deny and in turn are trapped by their yearning desires. Whether it be pure undeniable lust or passionate love it escapes them both mutually and tears the path of anything and anyone in its way. From the outside looking in you wonder “why”, they aren’t together but that’s life, things happened and things are the way they are for many different reasons. And so this particular “ toe stepper ” is merely following her heart she doesn’t know how to listen to anything else. Sometimes it may be that she can’t compromise her feelings no matter the circumstances. It could be that the words from his lips even if lies hold too much truth against her heart that she can’t or maybe doesn’t know how to let go. I’ve witnessed that this type of “ toe stepper” doesn’t mean to inflict pain on anyone of the opposing party but her, herself as long as she is in the situation is only causing her own internal suffering. She looks from the outside, at what her heart feels is her destiny. Conflicted by the jaws of fate she looks his girl in the eyes and she see’s she has half of who she is. “the mistress and the wife are one in the same; they share half of one man who indulges in the best of two woman. ”

-Mysia Akemi Marshae'